So, most of you do not know that I follow a lot of pages for children who have severe chronic illnesses, whether congenital or developed later on. I read them daily and they are a blessing to me in so many ways. But there is something in them lately that I need to clear up to all the mothers out there who are sharing their journeys:
IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT
Not all of you say this, but when things get worse, you guys seem to look at yourselves as the fault of these conditions. When really it isn't your fault. You carried these children in your bodies and kept them as safe as you possibly could until they came out in THEIR own time. You are strong whether you realize it or not and you stay by their sides until someone calls you to take a break and a rest and even then I know most of you end up right back next to your children within a few hours.
You have your moments when you break down, and who wouldn't but you pick yourselves back up after a cry and a sniffle (maybe a scream) and put a smile on your faces and be the best mommy and best support you can possibly be. You demand the best care, ask for second opinions, third opinions, and do everything you can to keep your children safe and as whole as they can be. And I know from the pictures you try to give them some form of normal.
You ladies are beautiful. It is NOT your fault. Never ever your fault. And I wanted to say this so you would know. So that you could have an unbiased stranger tell you that it truly isn't your fault. Your children if you were to ask would call you the best mother ever because you are there. And your presence makes them feel a little better even when things seem to be going wrong. There are other women and people who would have given up by now and you haven't, not truly.
So please be strong and know that you are are not at fault. And you are absolutely amazing.
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